Millionaires Reveal Secrets of HAVING IT ALL w/@IronManLifestyle

Success isn't just about making money; it's about mastering social skills and living life on your own terms.

So guys, this is going to be an amazing video today! My buddy Shsh is in town. Now, here's what's funny: most of you guys here in America don't know who Shsh is. This guy is like the [__] man in India, and you don't even know it! It's one of those things where, in this alternate universe of a billion [__] people, this guy is the [__] man killing the game. But you're just meeting him here. Again, he's going to be telling you some crazy, crazy, crazy stories.

This video is about how multi-millionaires can have it all, and we're going to be sharing that. Now, look, I'm going to tell you something too: my two favorite movies in the [__] world are Bahu Bali and Triple R, which are both movies from India. It's in like, it's like Tamil, right? It's in the Southern India language. So, my two favorite movies are Bahu Bali and Triple R because they're so [__] funny; it's ridiculous.

But anyway, it's a billion people down there, and this guy's [] running []. You got to look him up. We've actually been homies, and we were here in LA doing a party. We had a crazy, crazy, crazy party that was epic and super, super fun. I think we got like one little [__] clip of the party, and we got it all filmed. Maybe we can post a little [__] clip just to give you a little bit of an idea of it.

We're wrapping our night up; we had a great, great time. It's been a great J, and we're going to wrap it up very shortly. It was pretty wild in here tonight. Yes, what up, bro? So, you know, that was the end of the night. The party got so crazy that I had a full security detail here, and I was still running out on the streets, having to bat people away and stuff. It was a lot of fun!

We had a really great party, and there was a huge line outside; it almost looked like a club. I know, I know, and it's bad. I spent the night dispersing it and getting rid of it, and I'm going to bring even more screen next time. But anyway, the point being is we ran the best party in LA for this weekend. I got a lot of props from it and a lot of followers from it.

So, we're going to talk to you about the lifestyle—like throwing baller parties, making tons of money, traveling, dating, social skills, and having fun. He's very famous on social media. Being famous on social media, this guy, okay? I was out with him, and let me tell you, this guy runs it. You do not even understand how much this guy runs it. When we went out, it was out of control! All my buddies were like, "Who the [__] is this guy?" I'm like, "Yo, this guy runs this [__]; you don't get it."

We're going to talk a lot about that. By the way, part of why I brought CH on here is because I thought it would be fun, with the launch of Blueprint Reloaded, to show you examples of other people that are actually living this life that I'm talking about. What is the life that I'm talking about inside Blueprint Reloaded? The life that I'm talking about is, and this is what we're shooting at: making millions of bucks, crushing it socially, having OG social skills, being super [__] happy, being famous if you want to be. He's very famous, being famous if you want to be famous, being spiritually tapped in, living the life that you want to live, and getting paid to do something that you love.

That is what Blueprint Reloaded is about. It actually gives you the latest and greatest, the best stuff on OG social skills. When I created this thing, my goal was basically back in the day when I was building my social skills. I know that you went through this too. You build your social skills, and then you're like, "Okay, this is amazing! I've got a crazy social life; it's going awesome." But I didn't want to just have this.

Then you start looking at, "What can I build off of this? What is it that I'm learning here that I can use to make money with, to be happier with, to travel with, to live my own life with, to design my own life with?" I don't just want to be the only one banging the drum here; I want to bring CH here to show you examples of other people that are living this and doing it.

Now, I wound up spending 5 years doing this program. It was a $5,000 seminar that I taught for about half a decade. It's exercise-driven, and so because it's...

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Transform your social skills into a life you design—build connections, find your purpose, and unlock endless possibilities.

Building your social skills is an incredible journey. You might find yourself saying, "Okay, this is amazing! I've got a crazy social life, and it's going awesome." However, you may start to wonder, "What can I build off of this?" You begin to explore what you are learning that can be utilized to make money, to be happier, to travel, and ultimately to design your own life.

I don't want to be the only one sharing this experience. I want to bring in Chage to showcase examples of other people who are living this life and doing it successfully. Personally, I spent five years on this program, which was a $5,000 seminar that I taught for about half a decade. This program is exercise-driven, totaling 80 hours. It was just released after a pre-release last year.

What happens in this program is that you gain a community and a group, which we designed to replace the live seminar experience. If you grab this right now, I'm also including Blueprint Decoded, which was my best program that I developed over half a decade back in the mid-2000s. Most people credit that as the best program they've ever seen. I believe that this will be the best personal growth-based program available anywhere.

If you don't believe that, you have a 10x guarantee. If you don't get at least 10x the value from this program, you can refund it. Honestly, if you attend the calls, do the training, participate in the group, and still don't get that value, then that’s just unacceptable. This program is meant to be the most potent personal growth experience out there. It will teach you the latest in both old-school and new social skills, how to make money, how to get spiritually tapped in, how to find your purpose, manage your time, build your social life, and even how to do public speaking.

In fact, there are 20 hours of public speaking training included, which is the best you will ever see. We also provide several months of coaching, and you will become part of a supportive group. It’s an incredible opportunity to get inside Blueprint Reloaded.

I brought you here because you are an example of someone who has studied this material and lived this life. For someone at home hearing this, they might wonder, "Could I really do that? Is that a real possibility?" They can look you up and see that you are certified. How would you describe this journey to someone who might be working a 9 to 5 job, feeling lonely, not running big parties, or not happy?

You can show them that there is another side to life. You can help them understand what they want to create in their lives. It doesn’t have to be one epic life; it can change over the years. For instance, ten years ago, you might have wanted a life filled with clubbing and partying. Over time, your goals may shift to running a business, and now you might find yourself in a stable relationship, focusing on growth, travel, and enjoying life.

You might want to create a high-value social circle, or perhaps just a couple of close friends with the opportunity to access exciting experiences. For you, sitting here with me is that access. The party you just attended last night is another example of that access. Now, at this point in your life, you have the ability to create and enjoy the life you desire.

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Life is about evolving from chaos to clarity; focus on building meaningful connections and pursuing what truly fulfills you.

Now, it's changed where I just want to grow a business. I don't want to be that single guy running around partying all the time. Now, I'm in a very stable relationship, and that is something that I want to focus on. I just want to work out, travel, and do cool things like this—like we're doing today—attending parties and hanging out with friends.

When people talk about wanting a really big high-value social circle, for me, I just want a couple of my close friends and the opportunity to have access when I want it. The access we had at the party you threw last night is exactly what I mean. If I wanted to do it, I could. At this point, I've built my life to a point where I'm running a business, going to the gym, and I'm super happy. I'm in a fulfilling relationship, I have great friends, and I have great mentors. I have everything I've ever wanted, and multiple times a year, I'm doing international trips. There is nothing else I would want to add to the mix—just to do more of it.

If you're an average guy, you need to understand what it is that you want. Maybe right now, it's just about talking to a certain group of people or figuring out how to socialize with others if you're socially anxious when walking into a party. You can start there and build a huge network of people that could help you with business or just have fun. If you decide that this is what you want to do, that clarity can be really helpful because it cleared things up for me in my journey.

Imagine going back to working a regular job, not knowing how to take over the club. I watched you take over the entire club last night. This was my town tonight; LA is my town. I run this place—I'm royalty. But imagine not knowing that; it really makes you realize how much your life can suck when you don't have that knowledge.

I grew up in an all-boys boarding school, so it wasn't like I came home to girls. When I reached ninth grade, I transitioned to another boys' school in Delhi. I feel like my parents were playing pranks on me, saying, "Let's see if you can get a girlfriend." When college started, I had huge crushes on women. There was this very cute girl I wanted to talk to; I imagined going to the movies with her and envisioned my life with her. Anytime I would see her, my heart would start beating fast, and my face would go red—have you ever seen people's ears going red? Mine would go red too.

We often talk about honest signals, and you could see that I was nervous. However, what I found with women, even in college, is that they were very sweet. Even when I was nervous, they were kind. Of course, there were times I overstayed my welcome, but they were still nice about it.

Coming from that point to the life I'm living now, it's not just about me; it's about inspiring millions of people. Every day, I think about how this journey has transformed me. For instance, I have a friend who has been clowning me in the car all night, saying, "You're letting your views go down by 20,000." He's going to motivate me this week and help me with my YouTube channel because I've been half-heartedly working on it lately.

This guy is killing the YouTube game, and he's doing a much better job than I am. Getting around better people is key. Every month on YouTube, we get close to 10 million views, and it can go up to 20 million.

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True freedom comes from doing what you want, not what society expects. Embrace the journey, trust your instincts, and let your passions guide you.

Owen, that's motivating! I know he's actually going to help me this week with my YouTube channel. I've been in places like Alaska and Montana, just taking a break, and now that I'm back here, I've been going half-hearted on YouTube. But this guy is really killing the YouTube game, so his support is invaluable. He’s doing a much better job than I am, which is a reminder of the importance of getting around better people.

You probably looked at my stuff and found it amusing to see me getting pushed to improve my YouTube presence. Every month, we get close to 10 million views, and sometimes it even goes up to 20 or 30 million. It’s crazy! I’ve had celebrities approach me in India, and I’ve experienced similar moments in London, Thailand, and Bali. Just the other day, someone recognized me here and said, “Yo dude, he’s that guy from Iron Man lifestyle.” It feels really cool to be acknowledged like that.

Regarding how my audience feels about me being here in LA from India, I posted a story of myself driving in a convertible while listening to "Nothing But a G Thing" by Snoop Dog. I expressed that I always wanted to do that, and everyone was super happy for me. One of my old friends even texted me, saying, “Bro, I gotta go!” For the longest time, my dream city has been LA, and now being able to experience it feels like we’ve come full circle.

The freedom to do what I want is incredible. India gained independence about 75 to 80 years ago, but I feel that many people are still not truly independent. They remain bound by societal expectations and their own minds. How can you claim to be free if you’re not living life on your own terms? True freedom comes from doing what you want to do.

One mindset that I’ve cultivated, which has helped me immensely, is this: whenever I want to do something, my only question is, “Is it worth it?” If it’s worth it, I will pursue it, regardless of how hard it is or what the path looks like. There’s nobody stopping me from achieving my goals, and that’s what I define as true freedom. This is what I call the winner mindset. When you live your life with that confidence, you can tackle any situation.

For instance, this is my first time in the US, and I was initially scared of eating alone at the college canteen or going to the movies by myself. But now, traveling solo for the first time, I didn’t hesitate. I simply thought, “I’m going, and I don’t care if I know anyone here.” The confidence I’ve built comes from repeatedly putting myself in uncertain situations, whether it’s going out to clubs every night or just stepping into the unknown.

We often discuss what excites us more: the reactions of others or the joy of what we’re doing. It’s all about the doing. The Bhagavad Gita talks about this concept, which is often referred to as Karma Yoga. It emphasizes the importance of action without attachment to the results. When I build something, I realize that the joy in the process is incomparable to any external validation.

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Success is found in the journey, not just the destination. Embrace the process and let your actions speak louder than your doubts.

Do you want to get excited by how people are reacting to you, or do you want to get excited by what you're doing? It's in the doing. Like the Bhagavad Gita talks about, you can take all the validation, but what you're doing is called Karma Yoga. In Hindi, it's supposed to be K yog. When you hear me say Karma Yoga, is that funny for you? But that's like all white people, right? It was supposed to be yog, but now it's yoga. I get it, and it's cool; I can understand that.

The benefit or the joy in the doing that I figured out when I'm building something is not the same as when it happens by the end of it. You know, it's the journey that makes it worthwhile. For example, I've wanted to be in LA with you, sitting here, for the past 12 years. During those years, I thought about how cool it would be to be in LA, while I was in India. I wondered if it was even possible. I thought, "No one’s ever done it; it's a billion people. Am I stupid to think I could be the only one to do it?"

Then, I waited for your crew to come to India. I remember your buddy Julian had a free tour happening in Mumbai once, and I was excited to go, but then it got canceled. I was like, "When are these guys going to come?" I felt like someone was going to come and save me. But then I thought, if they ever saw me as this needy guy who wasn't doing anything, how would that look? Nobody wants that. So I decided to start socializing with people and build some confidence.

I began doing some part-time work, and slowly, confidence started to build. One thing led to another, and gradually, success started to happen. It was such a snowball effect that the thing I wanted to do 12 years earlier finally happened. Now, here we are, sitting together. Imagine if I were the guy from 12 years back—I would have been like, "Oh, um, hi, my ears go red. Can you help me?" And you would probably have been like, "I have no idea what you're talking about."

I never wanted that, which is why I'm here now. Seeing me like this must make you proud, knowing that someone who never had access to you has come this far. You also smashed it tonight; I mean, you were out of control, bro! It was a fun night—an epic night!

And for anyone who thinks, "Oh, an Indian guy can't crush it in Los Angeles," just shut the [expletive] up. I did this [expletive] in a [expletive] wheelchair for 3-4 months. It's 6:00 in the morning right now, and the sun's about to come up. I did this [expletive] in a [expletive] wheelchair. People think a guy from India or a guy from China can't do it—just shut the [expletive] up. We can do this [expletive] in a wheelchair.

So, you know what? Anyone can [expletive] do this. And this guy was on fire tonight! You see him here, talking and sitting out there, [expletive] awesome. So go out and have your own awesome experiences, guys. Honestly, when I say anyone can do it, even an Indian guy, I didn't think that was what people thought. But it seems like they do. If you're short, bald, or have an Indian accent, just shut the [expletive] up. My whole life has been about overcoming those perceptions.

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Your mindset shapes your reality; if you believe you can, you will.

That's great that you did that! I've done this while in a wheelchair for real, you know. We'll probably go kick it in Venice tomorrow and bring the wheelchair. Okay, so we love the wheelchair!

So, look, anybody can do this. This guy was on fire—this guy was on fire, bro! Like, you see him here, he's talking and talking, sitting out there, it’s awesome. So, you know, God and have your own awesome experiences, guys.

Honestly, when you say it like anybody can do it, an Indian guy can do it, which I didn't think that was what these people think. I don't understand these thoughts. They just think, "If you're short, if you're bald, if you have an Indian accent, shut the [] up." My whole life, it's just like my death—my death will be me like one more guy saying, "Only if you don't have looks, money, see, I'll be like [] you." I'm just going to die, and my face will be like in my pancakes, and I'm just going to be like [__] you.

The funny thing is, because I can't post some of the footage that I could before, I just have to sit here seething while these [] get away with saying this []. I want to go out with my [] camera just to post and post and post. I want to shout, "Shut the [] up!" because they're bleeding limiting beliefs into the [] population. These people are [] doomsayers. I can't stand these limited, demonic [] that just pollute people's minds. Because we can't [] do certain things, they get away with it, and then these chumps believe it.

Look, I'm a chump, and it's their excuse—there's no [__] excuse. Okay, I'm done.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, I just couldn't let that slide, though. Just because I'm Indian, like I agree, I am the [__]. His name is Shage Dam. If you ever see me out and I see you out and you want to do a challenge, we'll go toe-to-toe, 100%. He will win! I don't care who you are or where you're from. I had these two or three African-American dudes come to me, and they're like, "Bro, respect!" Of course, bro, respect! I like, dude, I love it—much appreciated.

But yeah, if there's any Indian guys thinking that it's not possible because of your skin color, your accent, or any of the other things, it's [__]. Look at our boy Justin Mark up in Toronto too. Dude, Justin, he's 5'4", and he gets hundreds and millions of views in India—of course he does!

There's this one guy who's a big fan of Justin, and he downloads Justin's stories. He made a fan page and then posted it up with Indian music and Hindi subtitles. In a month, do you want to know how many followers that page has? 200,000! Of course, it did! It’s like T-Series versus PewDiePie. Indians are going to win everything, see? They got a billion people, so Justin's only going to go up from there. It's going to be like 10 million!

There was one video of Justin where he's walking to the club with a lot of girls, and the dude captioned it, "Just sold my ancestral farmlands and bought 20 Russians going to the club." He’s got gangster Hindi rap music playing in the background—epic! Justin and I have been in touch for a while, and we feel like we're long-lost brothers. He's like, "Bro, I want to meet you," and I'm meeting him in two weeks. That's my long-lost brother too, bro!

It's like those dreams coming true. One thing that I just want to say is the level at which you settle for is what you're going to get. If you feel like, "Oh, I'm not made for that stuff," you are not made for that stuff. If you feel like, "This is what I can do, and I cannot do," you will be able to do the stuff that you can do and the stuff that you cannot do. It's like that thing where you know you've got two wolves in your mind—you know which one's going to win: the one you feed. The more you feed the "can do" or the "cannot," anyone that you feed more is going to win.

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Your mindset shapes your reality; feed the can-do wolf and watch success sneak up on you.

While talking with him, it feels like we are long lost brothers. Of course, he said, "Bro, I want to meet you," and I'm meeting him in two weeks. It's like he's my long lost brother too, coming all the way from Canada. It's just like those dreams coming true.

One thing I want to emphasize is that the level at which you settle for is what you're going to get. If you feel like, "Oh, I'm not made for that stuff," then you are not made for that stuff. However, if you feel like, "This is what I can do and I cannot do," you will be able to do both the things you believe you can do and those you think you cannot. It's like that saying about having two wolves in your mind; the one that wins is the one you feed. So, if you feed the "can do" wolf, it will win. You can create your mindset like that. You start with that, create a plan, and go out to achieve it.

Success might not come in a month or a year, but it will sneak up on you. One day, you'll find yourself saying, "Oh wow, I'm here in LA," and next thing you know, you'll have your own Indian channel with people watching it.

Now, guys, you have to understand that Hib and I have a huge background in social skills—OG social skills. I'm a 44-year-old man, and I still love being out. You’ll see the sun come up; we were out all night at what was the best party in all of LA. This is how we like to liberalize a lot of fun. We have a lot of fun, but we also built this not just for that.

We have multiple things going on here. For those on Instagram, we’re live on YouTube as well. It’s funny having people watching this because every time I have a guest, when they talk, the live viewership goes down. When I talk, it goes up. I keep getting confused about what’s happening. So, he’s got his thing rolling here too, directing people here, and I’m cool with that.

The point is, I don’t have anything specific to say, but there is so much stuff we can’t even show you where Owens is about that. We built this not just to have social skills but to learn how to use those skills to make money. You don’t need money to have social skills, but you often need social skills to learn how to make money.

How do you use social skills to make a multi-million dollar deal? How do you network with other rich people? How do you get mentally and emotionally regulated to build an amazing life? How can you use social skills to live your best life and even change your brain chemistry? That is a lot of what we are talking about here.

I brought you TI here specifically because of the Blueprint Reloaded program we’ve been discussing. This program is based on you actually getting to the point where you can use those social skills to monetize them. You can find it at blueprintloaded.com. It’s inexpensive, and anyone can get in there. It includes months of coaching, incredible coaching calls, and a forum and group that you’re part of.

I’ve included Blueprint Decoded, my best program from the early 2000s, my OG stuff, and it’s all in there. Get inside now because that offer is going to be removed. We won’t be including Blueprint Decoded, coaching, or the group in the future. So, if you get in right now, you will learn the kind of skills that got him to where he is and me to where I am.

You went out like a crazy person, learned all this stuff, and that’s why you’re so good out there today. But how did you start thinking about using communication to make cash and live the overall lifestyle you want? I think the core of everything is confidence. When people think, "I will be confident when I earn a certain amount of money," they miss the point.

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Confidence isn't something you earn; it's something you embody. Build it now, and watch your life transform.

The current offer is actually going to be removed. We will not be including blueprint decoded, and we will not have the coaching or the group associated with it. So, the only way to access this opportunity is to get in right now. Anyone can join, and you will learn the kind of skills that got him to where he is today and that got me to where I'm at. All that knowledge is included, but the key point is that you have to actively pursue this learning.

You went out like a crazy person and learned all this stuff, which is why you're so good out there today. But then, how did you start to think about using communication to make cash and to live the overall lifestyle that you want? I believe the core of everything is confidence. Many people think, "I will be confident when I earn a certain amount of money, when I look a certain way, or when I have a better hairline." Society wants you to believe that, and while it may help, that is not how it’s done.

The core confidence you need to build your life is essential. If you develop confidence in your social skills, you can apply that same confidence to other areas of your life. It's not about being confident only when you achieve certain milestones; it's about being confident now and approaching everything in life with that level of confidence.

The way our confidence is built comes from a place of self-esteem, which is developed in the first seven years of life and continues during the teenage years and high school. If you were bullied as a kid, it's likely that you will carry that forward into your college years and beyond.

Now, let’s talk about our team, which is a billion people strong. So, when you live your life with that level of confidence, you do not need to think that you need X, Y, and Z first. For example, when I was in college, I was surrounded by wealthy individuals. I attended a premier college, Delhi University, where I only had to pay $100 a year for my schooling.

In contrast, here in the U.S., college tuition can exceed $65,000 a year. I am currently setting aside funds for my son Dylan's college, which will likely cost about $150,000 for four years. This is a significant amount, especially considering that many Indian students in the U.S. end up with student loans, making it very difficult for them. However, right after completing a Master's degree, one can secure a six-figure job.

Confidence is crucial in every aspect of life, whether you are looking for a job or engaging in entrepreneurship. You need to be confident during interviews, as this confidence transfers into many other areas. For instance, I used to work for Budweiser and Marlboro during college, where I was tasked with promoting their products. I would carry a bag filled with Budweiser glasses and approach people at clubs or bars, offering them glasses in exchange for drinking Budweiser.

In India, part-time jobs were not as common; people were often engaged in other activities that were considered of lower value. However, I think that has changed now, and part-time jobs are becoming more accepted. The interesting part was that the places I would go to sample Budweiser and Marlboro products were often where my friends and potential romantic interests would be.

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Confidence isn't something you wait for; it's something you create by owning your choices and stepping into your role, no matter how unconventional it may seem.

I used to carry a bag with a Budweiser visor and cool glasses. Whenever I was in a club or bar setting, if I saw anyone drinking anything other than Budweiser, I would approach them and say, "Dude, if you have four Budweisers, I'll give you the glass." This was my routine on weekends. It's interesting to note that in India, everyone is working part-time jobs, but here, you’re not really considered to be working part-time jobs unless you’re doing something more valuable. However, I think that has changed now, and it’s become more common to have part-time jobs.

The places I frequented to sample Budweisers were where my friends and the girls would be. At that time, I felt embarrassed about my little Budweiser mascot part-time job. Despite my embarrassment, it was all about my confidence. Once I owned it, I would walk in wearing a Budweiser t-shirt and say, "Yo, what's up? What are you guys doing? I work for Budweiser. Dude, do you want a free glass?" This approach was much more confident than saying, "Hey, hi guys, actually, I work for Budweiser. Can you buy four Buds and then I’ll give you a glass?" The framing of my approach made all the difference.

This reminds me of the credit card salesman at a mall in India. I got so frustrated one time that I started coaching one of them. While walking around with some of my clients for fashion consultations, I would hear the salesman say, "Hi, excuse me, sir, do you have two minutes?" I thought, "Dude, I’m here every single day. Why do you do it this way?" I would tell him, "Listen, if you want to talk to someone, just go in directly and say, 'Hi, excuse me, I’ve got this crazy thing that’s going to blow your mind. You look like someone who would appreciate this. I can save you at least $10,000 every month on your credit card, and you will get access to the most exclusive places. I know you want it; just give me 30 seconds of your time, and I’m sure I can sign you up for a credit card.'" It’s all about the directness of the voice, similar to what you see in Free tour videos.

People often think that you become confident over time, but that’s not how it works. You need to realize that the earlier you start, the better it will be for you. I decided that I had to start early, and that’s how my life changed. In my early 20s, I was just a degenerate guy running around town, having fun, and not caring about anything. I was only interested in short relationships. During college, I thought, "I don’t give a [__]." The only amount of money I wanted to earn to be happy was $100 a month. I stayed with my parents, ate food at home, and the only thing I wanted to spend that $100 on was for an Uber to the club and back, and if I got hungry while out, I could buy food. That was it; nothing else mattered to me.

When I started coaching and became really good at it, I realized I still wanted that $100 and just wanted to coach. Many people in India ask me if this is a full-time job and what my parents think about it. Ten years ago, pursuing a career as a dating coach or a personal development coach through platforms like YouTube was unheard of in India. It was often seen as something you did if you weren’t bright or if you were a less academically inclined person. However, I have been a straight-A student all my life, someone who loves mathematics, and I graduated with a degree in statistics. I often reflect on what I want to do in life and consider how hard it is or what the scope of that career might be.

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Follow your passion, not the expectations. Your journey is yours to define, regardless of what others think.

A lot of people in India often ask me, "Is this a full-time job? What do your parents say?" This question arises particularly when discussing careers like being a dating coach or a personal development coach, especially in a country where offbeat careers like YouTube were not commonly accepted ten years ago. In India, pursuing such paths might have been seen as a sign of not being a bright or smart kid. However, I have been a straight A student all my life. I have always been someone who can study, who loves mathematics, and I graduated in statistics. I completed my bachelor's in science, and then I found myself pondering, "What do I want to do?"

This ties back to the question of what you want to do in life. Many people consider how hard it is, what the scope of the industry is, or how big the market is. But for me, I don't think about any of those things. I only focus on "Do I want to do it or do I not want to do it?" That was the only thing I wanted to do, and that's what I'm doing even now.

It's truly amazing, and I believe we are trying to get you on the other side of this problem. I want you to notice something important. The people who go through this kind of training, if you look at my son Dylan, he has videos coming out and running entire seminars at just 11 years old. You've seen how I do public speaking, and you may notice that Shaed could do the exact same thing. This realization is significant: "If my 11-year-old can do it, if Shaed can do it, then you probably never thought, 'Oh, I can public speak like Ed.'"

When you first start learning this, it may seem daunting, but then you realize, "No, I actually can." It's funny because, just like how I had so many coaches back in the day, anybody can learn this if you actually commit to it. You have to make a choice to pursue it, and it's pretty epic.

Now, let's take a couple of questions. M, do we have some questions on YouTube? I’ll check Instagram too. Sure, hop into Instagram. We'll grab a couple of quick questions. He's got his Instagram popping, so we're going to get some good interactions. We had a really fun night, and we also had a blast at U last night. We ran the best party in LA the night before, so it's been crazy over here.

I think you want to know something, and I also have questions for you too. Can I? Okay, I think I'll just end my Instagram; there are about 30 people there. Cool, I’d say leave it running. What I'll do is switch up to my Iron Lifestyle. Cool, do that. But let's keep this energy moving here too.

So, a couple of things I want to ask you. I have some pretty good questions for you as well. Are you ready, bro? Okay, let's keep it popping. Give me just one second.

The first question I have for you is, "How long did it take you to get a lot better with communication?" Did you see the kind of public speaking that you're doing here? Did you get to the point where you would go on these rants, like the one you're doing now? I know for me, when I started public speaking, I would find myself going on these crazy flows, whether I was out at a club or getting into a state of excitement.

What was it like for you to have your first experience getting into that state or going on a rant during public speaking or a video? Did it come slowly, or did it come quickly? What did you find?

It came slowly. I would relate it to years of me going out, socializing, and meeting people. I put myself in the deep end of just talking to them. When you go to a social setting, it could be a club or a party, it all contributes to your growth in communication.

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The key to captivating conversations isn't about asking the right questions; it's about transforming those questions into engaging statements that spark interest and connection.

Speaking, I would see myself go on these like rants—like the one that you're doing here. I would get into this crazy flow, or maybe I'm out of the club and I'm getting into this crazy flow. So, what was it like for you to have your first experience of being in state, or getting on a rant during public speaking or in a video? What was it like for you to actually first start to experience that? Did it come slowly, or did it come quickly? What did you find?

For me, it came slowly. I would relate it to years of me going out, socializing, and meeting people, putting myself in the deep end of just talking to them. When you go to a social setting—whether it’s a club, a party, or an event—one of the biggest things I struggled with earlier, and I feel a lot of you guys might be struggling with right now, is what do I talk about? It took me a couple of years to get that sorted and get the million dollar mouthpiece going.

Here’s the main thing people don’t understand: you think that getting that million dollar mouthpiece is about always having the perfect thing to say. You have to understand that it’s about lowering the bar so that anything you say is awesome. That's what people don't get. For example, if I were to ask you to describe your drive to work, could you do it in a way that people find entertaining? This involves your projection, cadence, emphasis, and shifts in different tones.

So, that is the million dollar mouthpiece. It’s not about having the perfect thing to say; it’s about lowering the bar so you can say anything and make it sound awesome.

One of the biggest things you guys might want to know is that when we go out, we often don’t have anything to talk about. So, how does a typical conversation go? It usually starts with the five questions: “Hi, nice to meet you. What’s your name? Where are you from? What do you do for work?” and so on. This can lead to a boring exchange where nobody wants to engage.

Instead of sticking to these five questions, we can change them into statements. For instance, rather than asking where someone is from, I could say, “You give me some kind of New York vibes. How long have you been in New York?” This approach is much more engaging.

Another example could be, “You seem very artsy.” This opens up the conversation, allowing the other person to either agree, disagree, or add something of their own. When we talk about social dynamics, everything revolves around the value being exchanged between people. This value doesn’t have to be monetary; it’s about emotions and whether the conversation is flowing well.

If I can offer any value to you—like fun or a good emotion, or even making you laugh—that’s what matters. However, when I ask a question, it doesn’t offer anything; it merely demands an answer from the other person. If you’re demanding like that, why would anyone give you anything?

Let’s say you want to network with someone who is above you in the networking space, or you want to talk to a business person. He does not want anything you have. You need to think about what you can offer him. When you start thinking this way, it can lead to better interactions.

Now, coming back to the point of what do you talk about, you want to consider what people talk about and what they don’t. You don’t want to ask, “What do you like doing?” Instead, you should talk about things that are a bit more exciting, which are out of the ordinary—like travel or anything in pop culture.

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Networking is about offering value, not just asking for it. Shift the conversation to exciting, light-hearted topics that resonate with the vibe. Stand out by being memorable, not repetitive.

When trying to network with someone who is more established in the business space, it is essential to consider what you can offer them. Instead of approaching the conversation with a mindset of what you want, shift your focus to what value you can bring to the table. This change in perspective can significantly enhance your networking experience.

Now, regarding the content of your conversation, it's crucial to think about what people typically talk about and what they avoid discussing. For instance, asking someone about their interests, like "What do you like doing?" is often too generic and unengaging. Instead, consider discussing topics that are more exciting and out of the ordinary, such as travel or pop culture. The key is to choose light-hearted topics that are contextually relevant to the environment you are in.

Even if you share an academic background with someone, when you are out socializing, it is best to avoid discussing academic subjects. The atmosphere should dictate the conversation. Imagine being in a joyful moment, like connecting with someone romantically, and suddenly being interrupted by an accountant discussing deductions. This shift in mood illustrates the importance of maintaining vibe relevance in your discussions.

To further elaborate on this point, consider the difference in tone when asking about someone's background. Instead of the standard questions like "Where are you from?" or "What do you do?", try a more engaging approach. For example, you might say, "You seem like you could be from here; is that true?" This method encourages the other person to self-qualify and engage more deeply in the conversation.

Adding humor can also be effective. You might joke about someone being involved in a "little scheme," which can lighten the mood and prompt laughter. This playful framing can help break the ice and make the conversation more enjoyable.

It's important to recognize that even mundane questions can be made interesting through tone and slight deviations. If you approach a person you're attracted to and compliment their unique hat, keep in mind that they may have heard that compliment numerous times that night. This repeated exposure can lead to a dismissal of standard compliments as a survival mechanism.

Therefore, when engaging in conversation, avoid clichéd questions like "Where are you from?" or "What's your name?" unless you can deliver them with a unique tone that captures attention. Remember, if everyone else is asking the same questions, you need to find a way to stand out in the conversation. Consider what makes your approach different and how you can create a memorable interaction.

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True connection comes from creating a fun, light-hearted atmosphere where people feel good, not from chasing status or outcomes.

In social interactions, people often develop survival mechanisms that lead them to dismiss compliments or common questions. For instance, when someone says "nice hat," they may not truly appreciate the compliment because they have learned to brush it off. This dismissal is a protective strategy that can extend to other common inquiries such as "Where are you from?" or "What do you do?" As a result, it is crucial to approach conversations with a thoughtful tone, ensuring that you maintain control over the interaction while also considering how to stand out amidst competition.

To differentiate yourself, it's essential to focus on your energy and the topics you choose to discuss. Avoid intense subjects like religion, politics, or social activism, as these can trigger strong opinions and reactions. Instead, aim for light-hearted conversations that evoke fun and excitement. By bringing positive energy into the interaction, you can create an atmosphere that is enjoyable for both parties. This is often referred to as the law of transference, where the feelings you project can influence the emotions of those around you.

When people leave an interaction, they may not remember the specifics of what was said, but they will recall how they felt. Humans inherently crave the exhilaration that comes from enjoyable experiences, much like the thrill we seek when watching a movie. Therefore, if you can present yourself as the most interesting person in the room by discussing engaging topics such as movies, music, adventures, or travel, you will likely leave a lasting impression.

Moreover, playful banter and light teasing can enhance the connection. It’s important to treat others as equals rather than being overly deferential to someone’s status. This refreshing approach can be particularly appealing to those who are more successful. For example, when I met someone notable, I chose not to mention my YouTube channel, as I wanted to avoid being perceived as someone seeking clout. Instead, I aimed for a genuine connection, prioritizing laughter and authenticity over any perceived value.

In social settings, many people dislike feeling like they are being sold something. This aversion can lead to discomfort and a lack of genuine connection. Therefore, it’s vital to keep conversations fun and light-hearted.

Another common mistake is fixating on a singular goal, believing that achieving it will bring happiness. I recall an encounter with a startup entrepreneur who had just sold his company for millions. Despite this success, he appeared sad and disconnected, standing alone in a corner. This illustrates that those who do not learn to manage their internal state often seek validation externally, only to find disappointment.

Ultimately, developing strong social skills can empower individuals to control their emotional state and foster meaningful connections, rather than relying on external factors for their happiness.

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True confidence comes from within, not from external achievements or appearances. Build your self-worth by embracing failure, improving your health, and developing your unique style.

Let me share with you an incident where I met a startup entrepreneur back in India at a club. He was a friend from before, more like an acquaintance. I approached him and asked, “Bro, what’s happening?” He replied, “Dude, I sold my startup for a couple of million dollars. This is the best day of my life.” However, despite his words, he seemed sad. I just couldn't tell if he was genuinely happy. He had had two or three extra drinks and was standing alone in the corner. I thought to myself, “Okay dude, I’m going to go.” Although he had sold his startup, his demeanor was taking away from my fun.

People who don’t learn this kind of stuff are often miserable because they don’t know how to control their state internally; instead, they seek it externally and are always disappointed. This kind of stuff, like social skills, trains you to control your state internally. One of the reasons I want to push myself into situations where I fail is not because I love failing, but because I don’t want to build an ego around things. I tell myself, “I’m a piece of []. I’m a piece of []. I’m no one, dude. I’m no one.” Even though I make very bold statements now, I want to emphasize that if any of you are Indians, don’t let yourself be pushed around by anyone, whether it’s white dudes or anyone else out there.

We need to own our identity. There are some things that make Indian dudes feel inferior. One is not having a clear role model. Now, you have me, dude. You have me. There are a bunch of Indian dudes just killing it out here. The second point is to get jacked. If you feel insecure about yourself, get jacked. Most of you guys, if you’re Indians, might be skinny fat. Go to the gym, get jacked, get that belly in—not like our friend out here. Get the muscles out; you will build some confidence. However, that alone will not be everything.

The third thing is to get a good fashion sense. Fashion can be two things: one, like Owen, who is dressed in slim-fit clothes and stylish shoes. It depends on where you are; for instance, New York is more about old money, while LA is more like hipster fashion. LA is more about streetwear, and you can go outlandish with it. Understand where you’re at and don’t be shy to wear things that are shiny or bright or that make you look a certain way. I often think about what a movie star would wear, and I would wear that shirt. I feel the most confident when I’m wearing all white. I know that when I’m going to be on video, I’m going to pop out; it’s just epic.

So, get your fashion in order. I have videos around fashion on my channel, which is half in Hindi and half in English. We also have subtitles, so everyone watching can understand. For those who do not understand Hindi, I recommend watching with the subtitles on. Fashion isn’t that difficult; you can get an oversized t-shirt, cargo jeans, and some sneakers. I also love accessorizing with watches and rings.

You could either go for an old money look with a crochet shirt or a half-sleeve shirt with a few buttons open, like Bryson. That dude has an epic vibe. I’m so glad to have met the team here; Owen’s team is just epic. I would usually imagine everyone to be like Lil Owen, but that’s not the case. Each person, including my son, has his own identity. This is because of the way we teach it.

You were running a seminar today, and every instructor that came up had a separate, different identity. It’s not about copying someone; the principles by which people operate are universal. The principles of confidence, social skills, and success are universal. When I say to get jacked and get good clothes, I don’t mean to do that for a year and then work on social skills. I mean to do it simultaneously. I’m going to get confident when I work on my social life and my physical appearance at the same time.

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Happiness isn't a destination; it's a choice you make in the moment.

In today's seminar, it became evident that everybody has his own identity. Each instructor who presented had a distinct and different identity, which reinforced the idea that you don't have to copy someone. However, the principles by which people operate are going to be Universal. For instance, the principles of confidence, social skills, and success are applicable to everyone.

When I mention getting good clothes and improving your appearance, I don't mean to focus on that for a year before working on social skills. Instead, you should do it simultaneously. The notion of saying, "I'm going to get confident when..." or "I'm going to have a good social life when..." is a trap. This concept is echoed in spirituality and texts like the Bhagavad Gita, which emphasize that you cannot delay being happy in the future. While you can delay gratification, happiness has to happen in the now.

For example, if you were to visit India, you would see children on the streets performing backflips. They often wear a little headpiece and spin it around. If any of my Indian friends are in the chat, they might recognize this. These children come to you for money, and if you give it to them, that's great; if not, they're still happy. This raises the question: is their happiness dependent on money or something else?

I would argue that you'll never see a brighter smile than in countries that have less money. The issue with American culture is that it often promotes the idea of "I'll be happy when..." and is heavily based on comparison. While this mindset can motivate ambition, in countries where people feel their ambitions may not be rewarded, you often find the brightest smiles and the best celebrations. Places like Brazil and Mexico are known for their vibrant dancing and joyous parties, as people focus on having fun in the moment. I strive to incorporate this mindset into my own life because that is a true version of wealth.

You also mentioned the Blueprint Reloaded, which includes the blueprint decoder. This upgraded version highlights that many people think they want to improve their social skills, but when I speak with clients, I find that 50% of their focus is on personal development and the other half is on dating. Many express a desire for a better personality. The most challenging aspect for many is approaching random people and initiating conversation. If you can master that, everything else in life becomes easier.

It's crucial to be clear about the life you want to create at this point in your life. This could mean wanting to focus on your studies while having a stable girlfriend who supports your career. In places like Los Angeles, there are diverse types of people, from "Pawn Stars" and OnlyFans models to intelligent therapists and psychology professionals.

It's essential to recognize that not all girls fit a stereotype. While some may seem to fit a particular mold, the reality is that individuals vary widely. For instance, the person I met tonight is a therapist who abstains from drugs and alcohol, demonstrating that there are many great people out there. If you desire a certain caliber of friends or relationships, you can create that.

One lesson I learned is that there's a spectrum of life. On one end, you might find individuals involved in OnlyFans, while on the other end, there are more conservative, religious individuals. Surprisingly, the differences may not be as vast as one might think. As you develop your skills, you'll notice that certain behaviors exist across this spectrum, and it becomes about your ability to generate those behaviors.

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Choose your path, go deep, and be unapologetically you. Success comes from commitment, not scattered efforts.

In today's discussion, we explore the idea of creating the type of friendships and relationships you desire. One example shared is about a girl who spends time with someone who does no drugs and no alcohol, highlighting that this person is a therapist and a great person. This illustrates that if you want a certain level of friends, you can indeed create it.

One important lesson learned is that there's a spectrum of life. On one side, you might find extremes such as OnlyFans, while on the other side, there are religious girls. Interestingly, the differences between these extremes may not be as vast as one might think. As you develop your skills, you will notice that certain behaviors exist across this spectrum, and it becomes about your ability to generate those behaviors.

Even within the realm of knowledge, skills, and opportunities (Kos), there is a spectrum. You can explore various paths, such as entrepreneurship or traditional jobs. The beauty of our connected world, thanks to the internet, is that you can create your own tribe based on your passions. It's crucial to choose where you fit on this spectrum and understand who you are. Whether you are in the process of discovering yourself or have already found your identity, it’s important to commit to one path after trying a few options.

This concept relates to marketing, where we often discuss T-level marketing. You can be knowledgeable in many areas, but to achieve significant success, you need to go deep into one specific area. This depth will yield the major benefits and returns. In business, the common belief is that you need seven streams of income to be rich, but that's a misconception. Most successful individuals, like Elon Musk, made their wealth through one primary venture—in his case, PayPal. After establishing that foundation, they diversified their investments.

To be successful, you should go 100% all-in on one thing. While it’s possible to manage two or three different ventures, the focus should be on one primary business. The market is vast, and you can find your niche. Similarly, in terms of personal identity, you can be whoever you want to be. Whether you choose to be a degenerate, a sweet guy, or anything in between, you will find people who appreciate you for who you truly are.

Once you identify your authentic self, embrace it 100% unapologetically. This commitment will help you see the path you want to take and pursue it with determination. As you delve deeper into your chosen area, you can later diversify your interests or endeavors to create a more rounded life.

Most of the good things in life come from depth. Success in business often takes years to build. For instance, Alex Hormozi mentions that it can take 20 to 25 years to establish a successful business, using Chick-fil-A as an example. In my own experience with YouTube, it took six years to reach 50,000 subscribers, but then I saw exponential growth, with the next 50,000 coming in just six months and another 500,000 in the following year.

This principle also applies to social success. It may take time to develop social skills, but once you do, they can serve you for life. Even as you age, like being 44 years old, you can still thrive socially, as evidenced by successful individuals around you.

As I build my own life, I aim for a stable relationship with one person, committing fully to that path. The future is uncertain, but I believe in going 100% in with my choices. It's a journey, and I feel motivated to keep pushing forward, even as the morning hours approach.

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To thrive in life, stop coping with problems and start taking action; momentum is the key to unlocking your potential.

Social skills are incredibly important because once you learn them, they can serve you for life. For instance, at 44 years old, many people might wonder what their future holds as they age. However, when I look at Owen, I see someone who is thriving, and I notice that his friends, his crew, have never encountered significant problems. If you aspire to build a life like that, you can certainly choose that path. Personally, I am focused on creating a stable relationship with one person. We may not know what the future holds, but we are committed to going 100% in with each other.

As I reflect on my journey, I realize that I am not going to stop pursuing my goals. It's early in the morning here, and we plan to head to Venice Beach tomorrow. Perhaps we'll see some of you there, as it tends to be bustling with people.

One of the key takeaways I want to share is the energy we gain from public speaking and social interactions. This principle has been a cornerstone of our teachings for many years. When I think back to the original Blueprint Decoded, it was a pivotal moment for me. Did you experience that kind of epiphany that opened your mind to being more present and shifted your mindset from coping to thriving?

For me, the concepts of coping and thriving were transformative. Initially, I thought, "Only if Owen was in India" or "Only if Julian was in India, they would save me." That was my coping mechanism—waiting for someone to rescue me. Now, I have shifted to a mindset of taking over my life. There is a significant difference between feeling helpless and embracing a proactive approach.

Let me explain the distinction between coping and thriving. In life, when you're constantly thinking, "If I can just get this" or "How do I get out of this situation?" you're merely coping with life's challenges. You're focused on small, incremental improvements. In contrast, when you're thriving, you don't dwell on those lower-level problems because you recognize they will always exist. Instead, you concentrate on the highest goals you can achieve and take action to reach them.

It's crucial to understand that if you never take action, you will remain in a coping mindset. You cannot transition to a thriving or winner's mindset, nor can you adopt an abundance mentality until you take that first step. Many people wait for motivation to strike before they act, but the reality is that taking that initial step can provide the motivation needed for subsequent actions.

This concept is akin to a combustible engine: the first spark ignites the second, which then leads to the third, propelling the engine forward. If that first spark never occurs, the engine will never start. Therefore, building momentum is essential.

According to Newton's law of motion, overcoming inertia is the most challenging part. However, once you get started, momentum becomes the most crucial factor in achieving success in life. Reflecting on my YouTube journey and learning social skills, the first two years were incredibly challenging. It took me six months to talk to my first person. In those initial two years, I spoke to more people than I can count, but now I can achieve similar responses by engaging with just a couple of individuals.

In the past, I would have needed to talk to 20 people to receive the same reactions I now get from just two. This shift illustrates the growth and progress that comes with persistence and the willingness to step out of your comfort zone.

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Momentum is the key to success; starting is the hardest part, but once you do, everything changes.

To succeed in life, momentum is essential. As described by Newton's law of motion regarding inertia, it is often the most difficult to get started. However, once you do, momentum becomes the single most crucial factor that will help you achieve your goals.

Reflecting on my own experiences, particularly during my YouTube journey and while learning social skills, I can attest that the first two years were incredibly challenging. It took me a full six months just to talk to the first person. In fact, during those initial two years, I spoke to more people tonight than I did in that entire period. The reactions I receive now are vastly different; earlier, I needed to engage with around 20 people to get the same responses that I can now achieve by talking to just two. The challenge then was figuring out what to do with the rest of the 20 people, who were often clamoring for attention.

It's important to maintain a mindset of absolute abundance. If you're constantly worried about things like money not buying happiness, you might miss out on opportunities. For instance, after a big party, it can take two hours of direct messaging to follow up with everyone the next day. You want to be in a state of abundance where such interactions feel natural and fulfilling.

Many of you may have heard of the book "The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari" by Robin Sharma. The title is significant; it was never called "The Monk Who Could Never Afford a Ferrari" because that would not attract readers. If you want to criticize something, it's essential to first experience it yourself. Go out, achieve your goals, and then decide if you want to pursue or reject them.

For me, I might not desire flashy things or a lot of attention on social media, but I do have a significant presence on Instagram for content purposes. I know I can attract attention, but I choose not to prioritize it. I am clear about my path, and that clarity places me on a spectrum of choices, parallel to others who are also navigating their journeys.

As we wrap up, I encourage you to think about collaborating with others rather than competing. The world is vast enough for all of us to work together. This collaborative mindset can lead to thriving rather than merely coping.

In closing, I hope you take away the importance of surrounding yourself with inspiring individuals. My life is enriched by friends who are also doing great things, and I want you to experience that as well. If you see the Blueprint Reloaded program, consider it a vital step in your journey. Many successful individuals, including top YouTubers and influential figures, have come through these systems.

This approach works. It's not just a solo endeavor; having a supportive network and guidance is crucial. You can start right now—get involved with Blueprint Reloaded and take the first step toward your success. We will continue to share more insights and videos, so stay tuned. Thank you for joining us, and we look forward to connecting again soon. Good night, everyone!